How do you know if a friendship is going to make it or not?
What are the signs?
I was listening to the radio the other day and they described friendship as a bit like dating ....except we do it all the time, with more than one person!
It's so easy to meet people, but not everyone you meet becomes your friend.
And then there is entering the relationship with that person .....the friendship relationship that is! Which is easier than a real relationship because you don't have to be exclusive!
But it's hard and we make mistakes!
Around the time my Mum died I lost judgement in friendships. I don't think I had my judgement goggles on?
Friendship One was with a woman who literally turned on me in a very nasty way. I said something she didn't like and she exploded in rage .....I've kept the text messages to remind me of it, in case I lose judgement again. It was a difficult time for me and what I said may have hurt a little but it did not deserve rage in a text message! She is a nice person when she doesn't fly off the handle. I should have known by her relationship she had with her mother, sisters and husband ....someone was doing her wrong, she was always angry at one of them. Lesson learnt!!!!
Friend Two .....she wooed me, and then dumped me cold! Unlike the other one, where I ran a mile .....this one just left me cold! The phone calls stopped, the text messages stopped, the nice facebook comments stopped. And because she had wooed me, I didn't stop to notice the underlying nasties going on. This one took me a long time to get over .....what had I done wrong! What I forgot to check was what was it that I had in conman with her .....answer booze!
You need a common ground with friendship!
I've made a few new friends more recently ..... One I have a lot of conman ground with; reading, parenting, travel similar views on life! I can see her and not have a drink, I can phone her and ask her to pick up Miss 8 from school and it's not a problem and if it is she'll tell me not bitch about it!
She understands what it is like to be a working Mum (maybe because she is one too) . And that you are a Mum you only want what is best for your child! She got it so well that without being asked she took photo's of Miss 8 at her swimming carnival and sent them to me on the day via SMS......my whole workplace was cheering Miss 8! She didn't bitch that I wasn't there or ignore and say oh well that's what you get for being a working Mum .....and I didn't have to ask! So special to me!
And then there is my BFF, she has grown with me .... and this week she took me to Canberra to the National Gallery to the Renaissance exhibit. Why? Because she could and she wanted too and she knew my inner geek (actually my inner geek is fairly outer) would love it and my mind would be taken to far off places in far off times (can't wait for Italy now). She accepts who I am am! We have grown up together, so she's like a sister to me ......Love her!
I have another good friend who lives in London. She is meeting us in Rome. I've known her for about six years now and she is so lovely .....would do anything for me! So kind!
So I am Happy to have special friends in my life! One's who love me and get me .....I'll try hard not to impress the others!
I have many friends .....I am grateful to them all!
I am happy for friendship!!!
